no matter your morals, you need perfect one-way love

It seems that no matter how stringently I say so, people have trouble believing it when I say that grace and one-way unconditional love is the heart of the gospel. People think my main agenda is persuade them to agree with and conform to a traditional form of morality. Agreement with a traditional form of morality may or may not be beneficial, but this is not really the question at all. Outside of the gospel, no matter what you believe about where the lines of morality should be drawn, there remains a law which condemns.

Do a thought experiment with me; you’ll be so happy you did. Suppose you think some form of sexuality should be deemed acceptable, and so you draw the lines of morality that way. Let’s suppose that is OK for now, that it is not in dispute.

Does that mean you are now free from the crush of moral judgment? Of course not! There is still the question of measuring up to the standards of desirability and attractiveness. There remains the question of creative, financial, and career success. There remains a huge network of principle and standards of excellence and behavior that one is judged against, and that one judges oneself against. There remains the question of the conscience, and the thousands of daily decisions to speak and to act that confront us in our secret mind and desire. There is the question of sloth and laziness and self-centeredness and lovelessness and constant low-level irritation and hatred, and of having so little real joy in life. There is so much failure, so much falling short of glory and beauty, so much mindless numb settling-for-less living that remains.

The question isn’t where you draw the moral line. The question is how you deal with your failure concerning the standards of success and excellence that you yourself truly agree with! We don’t need to dispute over which morals are true morals and which morals are unfairly being imposed on you. Everyone of every system of belief falls short of their own standards. I don’t need you to agree with my expectations in order to say that you cannot live by your own standards which you yourself actually agree with.

This is the point: the heart of the Christian message is not that you need to agree with my set of standards; I am not talking about that. At all. Really. I mean it. I can press the case very easily that by your own standards you have fallen short of glory and that you need a savior, that you need perfect unconditional unbreakable love and acceptance. I don’t need to use my set of expectations to do that; I can use your set of expectations just as easily. I can make the case that your own culture’s judging eye bears wrath against your glaring and true imperfections. I can easily make the case that you feel the wrath and judgement against yourself from your own “accepting” people morning by morning and day by day. Do you really feel that your significant relationships are predicated upon the idea of perfect persistent unconditional one-way love?

The gospel is called “good news” because it is the door out of this intense and ever-present judgment. There is a good reason why Sartre could refer to our existential experience as nausea. We need to be rescued. It is not some small dispute about some fringe moral dispute that you need saving from. You live and breath and walk in an endless ocean of rejection and judgment and fear and relational boundaries that count you out. You are in constant fear of your own unworthiness. You need a savior, you need real love that sees you as a beautiful and priceless pearl worth dying for. You need perfect love.

18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 19 We love, because He first loved us. 1 John 4:18-19 (NASB)

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  1. That’s the problem I have with the “Christian” view of homosexuality. It’s like we’re saying,”If you could just get that gay thing straightened out you’d be fine!” But they wouldn’t! Because I’m not fine and I’m not gay. We get so caught up in this one behavior, that it’s all we can see. I hear, “There’s no way you can be a practicing homosexual and be saved” because it’s called “habitually sinning”. But what about not being honest on our taxes? Divorce? Driving by that homeless person and not stopping to help? Or, dare I say it? Overeating! That’s a good one because many overweight believers joke about their predilection for good food. They were just born that way. That’s an argument I’ve heard before! LOL

    I’m not saying that to judge (but I probably am judging…..I know I shouldn’t) but to point out our own error when we start picking sins to judge someone’s standing before God. There’s no good place for that to take us. Great post!

  2. You’re right on about all of this. It isn’t to excuse homosexuality either. It is to say that all sin is habitual sin:

    Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin. John 8:34

    We don’t need to “repent” in terms of behavior change and then come to God; we need to come to God and get saved:

    9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [f]effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.1 Corinthians 6:9-11

    How do these terrible habitual sinners, such as the homosexuals and the covetous, evade hell? It doesn’t say, “but you repented, you reformed, you went through 12 steps.” It says, you were washed, you were sanctified (which means set apart by God, once for all, BTW), you were justified. Belief and justification are utterly central. It is funny how people ignore the direct context in these verses.

    Love and grace and truth to you Serene!!!

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